Sometimes You Have to be Mean

I’ve had this post on my mind a lot lately, and I have finally decided to sit down and type it out.

Lately, I’ve been talking to a lot of women about situations in which they felt it necessary to be nice and passive even when they were uncomfortable. Not just when they were being hit on or dudes or other females were being inappropriate, but in situations where people were trying to sell you things or ideas. I am the WORST at telling solicitors to get TF off my porch or dudes hitting on me to go away because (especially as a southern belle) you’re taught to be nice. You’re taught to be submissive and cordial. But honestly, I’m really freaking sick of being nice to someone just because society says I “should” be. I’m sick of being uncomfortable to make someone else, that has no importance to me, feel comfortable.

So I’ve decided to change that. From now on, I’m going to be straight forward and stop hoping people “get the hint.” I’m going to make it very clear that I’m not interested or that I’m uncomfortable. And if those don’t work, I’m going to be a bitch, because I don’t have time to waste on nonsense. And I encourage you to do the same.

When a guy or girl tries the MOST obnoxious line ever, “Your (husband, BF, wife, GF, significant other) doesn’t allow you to have friends?” My answer will be, “I have enough fucking friends, and I’m not interested in anyone that can’t take NO for an answer.”

When a guy or girl is pressuring you into doing something you aren’t interested in, regardless of how much money they spent on you or how “nice” they were to you, or even if earlier you told them you WERE interested in something more, YOU DON’T OWE THEM ANYTHING. Stop beating around the bush because you don’t want to seem rude. Stop hoping they get the hint. Just recently I read an article about the Aziz Ansari accusations, and it really hit home for me. This girl’s body language and response to the situation would have rang a bell for almost anyone that she was uncomfortable. However, in the situation, her cues were not observed, and she ended up involved in something she didn’t want to be. I am in no way victim blaming. I will always stand behind, next to, or in front of anyone that is the victim of sexual assault. BUT, if a guy or girl can’t take the words I AM NOT INTERESTED IN THAT, then they aren’t worth the work of sparing them an awkward moment. BE A BITCH! Tell them to get TF off you.

If a salesperson is at your door and won’t take “No” for an answer, tell them that if they don’t get off your porch, you’re calling the police. Seriously. Sadly, the only thing that used to get people off the porch for me was, “My husband won’t allow me to make those decisions.” How effed up is that?! But now, I’m so sick of having to make up BS to get them to leave. I’m sick of having Kyle call and cancel things that I couldn’t say no to. So from now on, if a polite “I’m not interested” doesn’t work, I’m going to make it REEEAALLLL uncomfortable for all of us. Because I’m really over it.

If you are at work and your coworker has gotten a little too free with his or her jokes or innuendos, don’t grimace and force a smile to avoid confrontation. Your workplace should not be a place of discomfort. Say something! As someone who has been in situations with coworkers that made me uncomfortable, I can honestly say, I wish I would have spoken up. But I didn’t for fear of ridicule or being called a liar. But chances are, you are not the first person to feel uncomfortable by your coworkers actions. Keep note of the situations and confront your coworker professionally. If that doesn’t work, go higher up. People will most likely call you a “bitch” for it, but they are not worth compensating your safety or sense of security.

I am well aware that standing up for yourself is hard because you don’t want to be “that person.” I know that the assholes are quick to throw it back in your face with, “oh, you just think you’re so attractive that I was hitting on you?” or, “wow, you’re just too good to have a conversation with someone?” Your answer? “You are damn right!” Because 99 out of 100 times, this guy or girl is a waste of space and doesn’t deserve your time, much less does his or her opinion matter.

There have been so many situations in the news lately where the accused claimed it was simply a case of “miscommunication.” Let’s stop leaving that on the table. Let’s stop allowing these predators to weave doubt into the equations.

And finally, let’s stand together. If you see someone in a situation where you can very clearly see he or she is uncomfortable, say something. Sometimes it is hard to speak your mind, and you need support. If you don’t want to cause a ruckus, see if you can snag her or him when they are alone. Maybe creepy person has head to the bathroom or the bar to grab another drink. A simple, “you ok?” or “you need a way out?” is greatly appreciated.

There is strength in numbers.

Have you ever been in an uncomfortable situation and didn’t know how to get out? How did you resolve it?

Blog Love

So these past few months have been crazy chaotic. This semester has kept me on my toes and I haven’t been able to post as much as I would like. If I’m not in class, I’m doing homework. If I’m not doing homework, I’m babysitting. If I’m not babysitting, I’m sleeping. I’m not going to lie, the dark thoughts have been making their way back in my mind, and I’m fighting them as well as I know how. Since I haven’t been able to post regularly, I want to share some of my favorite bloggers.


Landyn is one of the most down to earth people that I follow. She shows you the good, the bad and the ugly. She has awesome daily hacks and recipes and if you have an Instagram, do your self a favor and give her a follow. Her stories are the best!


Courtney just had her first baby, and y’all she is GORGEOUS! Courtney gives great beauty tips, and her trader joes hauls on Instagram stories are so good!


Lynzy just had her third little nugget and he has the best cheeks ever. Lynzy is totally the cool mom with the cutest style. She is quick to show you the REAL life of a mom. She has no issues sharing her bad days along with her good, and that is so refreshing.


Clara is a local lady. ATLien love. She is a nursing student at Mercer, which is like a hope skip and a jump from us. She’s so sweet and I love how honest her posts are. She’s not a mama so she is a nice break from all the mommy blogs that I follow. She has an AWESOME post about birth control that she just posted recently, and I love that she is spreading so much necessary knowledge. Birth control has affected my mental health negatively for so long, and no one tells you the negative affects you can have. You request a prescription, they give it to you, and they send you on your way. But Clara puts it all out there, and I love it!


If you want to laugh your face off, follow Grace NOW. She is so hilarious, and I swear we would be best friends in real life. Grace, if you are so graciously reading this, I live in Atlanta so we are state neighbors. Call me when you’re in the area girlfriend! Grace has the cutest kids and her Instagram stories with them are too precious.


Gina is my OG blogger. She was the first blog I ever followed religiously, and I can’t even begin to express my gratitude to her. Her openness about mental health and her realness about momming has opened my eyes to so much. She doesn’t hide behind her screen, and she is so receptive to her readers. Her two daughters seem like such sweethearts (one of my favorite things she posts are her “liv-isms” They are hilarious or precious or just crazy deep things her daughter Olivia says, and I can’t get enough)! I feel like I watched her kiddos grow up through her blog and It’s amazing. Her husband is in the military, and I can’t thank them enough for the sacrifices they make for our country.


Ok, so if I had a long lost sister, Lauren would be her. She is so funny and real and no joke, her posts make me want to move to the northeast. Maybe one day, if I can wrap my head around actual snow in the winter. Probably not though. Also, Lauren is another person that if you aren’t following her Instagram stories, you aren’t doing yourself any justice. Also, she has some BOMB Pandora playlists.

So that’s who I am loving right now and always.

Do y’all have anyone that you are following that I need to check out?


Caribbean Cruise

Before I start on the cruise, I am making a PSA. If you are EVER even near Cocoa Beach, Fl. you absolutely MUST stop at Anacapri Pizza and get a margherita pizza. It is the best pizza I have ever eaten in my entire life. I am drooling just looking at the picture.

We took an amazing cruise for our late honeymoon/one year anniversary. I’m not going to lie, I get SO motion sick, and I was so nervous I was going to be sick the entire time. People kept telling me I wouldn’t even feel the motion, but I knew I would. And OHHHHH did I. Luckily, it only really affected me at night when I couldn’t see out the windows, so I was able to just take some seasickness medicine every night before bed. I tell you what though, I was miserable the first night. But all was resolved and the fun commenced.

They had two formal nights, but we ended up going to just one. They had a 24 hour pizzeria and unlimited food during the day at the buffet so fancy dinners weren’t necessary. They had brunch (my favorite meal) some mornings. They also had unlimited burgers at a Guy Fieri burger joint and unlimited BBQ during our at sea days. I gained 6 glorious pounds on this cruise, and I don’t regret a single bite.

Our first port was Grand Turk and we went kayaking but, I didn’t take any pictures so we will start on our second port, Puerto Rico. We went on a walk through San Juan with an amazing tour guide that told us all kinds of historical information. She was so sweet and full of knowledge. We stopped at a local restaurant and learned the proper way to make a mojito (my FAVORITE drink.) We also were taught how to make mofongo, a local dish. It was beyond delicious.

Our third stop was St. Kitts. We went 4-wheeling up the side of the mountain and saw some of the most amazing views. No picture will ever do it justice.

After we finished riding 4-wheelers, we went to this beautiful botanical garden and enjoyed locally made fruit punch and cake. The fruit punch was to die for.

On our way back to the boat, we passed a dude and his monkey. I couldn’t pass up a photo op. His name was Peter. 🙂

Our last port was St. Maarten and probably my favorite. We took a boat out to a floating hut and just relaxed. I drank a local frozen drink and read a book. It was so incredible. The water around us was so clear, and we were able to snorkel around the hut. There was a sunken helicopter and submarine. It was so beautiful and serene. The picture above was a view from my lounge chair. Now whenever I am stressed or anxious, I imagine I am back here. I hope one day we can make it back to this island.

I’m not sure I will ever be up for a cruise again. There are plenty of things to do, but Kyle and I are not big on making conversation with strangers. And you are constantly surrounded by people. There is ALWAYS a line you have to wait in for whatever you want to do, and you most likely will see the same people over and over again. So you are kind of forced into conversations. I would say that’s my least favorite part of the cruise.

I also hated that we didn’t have a ton of time to enjoy local stuff like food or the actual beach. So I might choose to do less excursions if we ever went again.

Has anyone else been on a cruise? Any pointers or things I should keep in mind if we go on another one?



Poppin’ in to say hello

Here is a little sneak peek of one of our pieces we decided to hang. (It was Kyle’s idea. I give him all the credit.) Obviously it’s not a typical piece, and some might consider it tacky. But those people are sad and lame and square, and we choose not to associate ourselves with that negativity. Buh bye. Go be a Nats fan.

So Easter is this weekend and we are hosting. I am super duper excited to be able to have family over to our new digs. It’s going to be great. But I tell you what, finals are sneaking their happy little asses up SO fast, and I don’t know if I can keep up. I’m kind of freaking out. *Smiling and sweating emoji* I have 4 papers due and a project, and that is all in addition to my finals. SO I am attempting to cram all that in between classes and trying to put Ikea furniture together so our bedrooms aren’t empty.

On a side note, if you are considering marrying someone, put a piece of Ikea furniture together first. If no one is murdered before the final product, you have found yourself a life partner.

Anyyywayyyssss, overall, life is still pretty grand over here. We have been working on a couple decorating projects that I’m excited to share on here soon. Nothing grand. I wish, but I’m pretty pathetic when it comes to arts and crafts. I get distracted too easily. So set your expectations really low so we can all be pleasantly surprised.

On another side note, my grandfather gave me this piece of advice when I was younger and it always stuck with me.

“When it comes to dealing with other people, never have any expectations, then you will never be disappointed.”

It’s kind of sad, and yet oh so true.

Ok, y’all! I just wanted to pop in between classes and giant cups of coffee and see how you’re doing.

Hope all is well on the western front! (And eastern)(and northern and southern) (ya know, all the fronts)

Our little watchdog, protecting us from the neighbor’s miniature poodle.

Spring has sprung!

And that means it’s baseball season! My favorite time of the year! We were able to go to the Braves preseason game against the Yankees, and Suntrust Park is absolutely beautiful. I can honestly say they did amazing work at this park, and I am so excited to see it fully completed. Baseball is my JAM, and I am so lucky that I found a husband that loves it as much as I do.

So, I feel like this week just started and it’s already Thursday. Is this what people were talking about when they said things like, “Just wait until you’re older. Time flies?” Because I never doubted the truth in that. I just thought that it would take a little longer for me to notice. Like I would have kids and stuff before I was begging time to slow TF down. I don’t want to have this post be about time flying by and all that stuff because that’s stressful. And honestly I’m feeling really chill right now, so let’s keep that movement flowing.

So today the cable guy is coming and getting everything hooked up the way the first guy was SUPPOSED to do it. So *fingers crossed* we will have internet and cable soon, and I will be able to resume binge watching all my shows.

Also, HHgregg is bringing our replacement dryer since the first one they delivered burned up. Literally. Sparks and all. It was lovely. Luckily we were home, and the breaker did its job and shut off power to the dryer. They tried everything possible to blame it on us. But jokes on them because I used to work in the electrical business and I may not know a ton, but I know enough to be dangerous. And defend myself. So they are delivering a new dryer tomorrow (UPDATE apparently the “inclement weather” has affected our delivery time and they can’t deliver until Saturday. I will NEVER be purchasing from this company ever again. It has been a complete nightmare.) and I will FINALLY be able to do laundry after two (very long) weeks. Is it bad that I’m excited to fold laundry and watch This is Us?

On another note, spring classes are almost over, and I am so ready for finals and the end of this semester. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE school (super nerd for life). I could be a lifelong student. But chemistry is killing me, and I recently found out that by the time I am able to apply for my grad program, they will no longer be accepting that prereq. So I am in a class I despise for no reason. And I have to work my butt off to maintain my current GPA. So I will be taking summer Chem, which consists of 6 hour classes twice a week, to make up for these wasted 4 credit hours.  But that’s ok! Because that will keep me on the learning train and make me reach my goals a little faster. Positive thoughts right?! RIGHT?!

Back to zen.

Once we get the internet up and running, I will have a post up with pictures of the new house! It will take a minute and I am currently posting while at school whenever I can find time before or after class. So unfortunately I can’t do it now.

Our backyard during some of the rainstorms.

The weather was NO JOKE yesterday in and around Atlanta. I was getting flood warnings and tornado warnings out the WAZOOO. But once I got home, I just couldn’t get over how beautiful the rain was hanging in all the trees and the heavy fog. Y’all it was too much. I was snapping pictures of the trees like I was a prom photographer. “Oooh yes girl. Pop the limb. Long necks now.” Anyways, it was gorgeous, and our little trickle creek got some much needed rain. So it is flowing like a big daddy now.

We are having our families out for Easter next weekend, and we are super excited to be hosting our first holiday in our new house. What do y’all have planned for Easter weekend? Binging on discounted candy from Kroger? Me too. Don’t you touch my Reese’s eggs.

I hope y’all have a FABULOUS afternoon and weekend!